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“When you arise in the morning, think what a precious privilege it is to be alive – to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love.”
– Marcus Aurelius

 

It is often said, in spiritual circles, the path to enlightenment is to let go of desire – we are to become desireless to find peace.

I say, we are to embrace our desires and our LONGING to find PASSION, JOY, EXCITEMENT, LIFE!!!!

Give voice to, accept, acknowledge, admit, and honor your innermost longing – that thing that seems so unreachable, so huge, so terrifying that you don’t even want to admit to yourself that you want it. Yeah, embrace that MOTHERFUCKER!

Have I completely lost it???

Probably.

But think about it. You know that nagging pain in your ankle, neck, back, head, stomach, HEART, that you can’t explain and seems to come and go??? Or maybe just that growing feeling that your very soul is slowly dieing???

If you have a deep inner longing, a passionate desire, that you are not acknowledging, then you know what I’m talking about because that desire is trying to make itself known through your body and emotions, and it will not stop until you let it out! Even if it’s just a silent scream to the heavens, “I WANT THIS!”

If you are trying to bury your deepest desires, it fucking hurts. So let that shit out. Own it.

You’re only holding it in because you have convinced yourself, and allowed other people to convince you, that you cannot have what you desire.

So you’re afraid of it. You lock it away, and shove it down, and suppress it, but it hurts so much more to deny your desires, and you know it.

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“I beg you to have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves as if they were locked rooms or books written in a very foreign language. Don’t search for the answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps then, someday far in the future, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer.” – Rainer Maria Rilke

 

It feels awful to have a desire when you have convinced yourself you cannot have it; it feels joyous and exciting to have a desire and to KNOW it is already yours, and then to experience and participate in the manifestation of it.

And that is only the difference between saying “I want it BUT I can’t have it for this reason, and this reason…..”, and saying “I want it AND I don’t yet know how I will get it, but I am excited to find out!”

Seriously, we cannot be desireless. It is not human nature, or even the nature of any living being, and it would be so Goddamn boring!

We incarnated into these physical bodies to experience life! This is the adventure package all expenses paid vacation!

 

“What if we tried Owning Surrender by letting go? Not letting go of our dreams, our goals, our hopes, our relationships – but rather, letting go of how we think we can MAKE them happen. Having faith enough in the universe that what is meant for you will occur, and that your only job is to dream up the picture, intend it, bless it, and then to let go and enjoy the ride.”

 

With Love and Joyous Celebration,

Robin

 

Meditation to Open Your Heart Center and Release Fear

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And every day, the world will drag you by the hand, yelling, “This is important! And this is important! And this is important! You need to worry about this! And this! And this!”

And each day, it’s up to you to yank your hand back, put it on your heart and say, “No. This is what’s important.”

Iain Thomas

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I’m a big believer in the power of meditation to improve your state of mind and help you to become more focused. Most importantly, I believe that establishing a meditation practice is key to really reaping those benefits, as opposed to just meditating every now and then, or whenever you take a yoga class.

Lately I’ve really let my meditation practise slide; in fact my whole self-care routine has fallen apart, and I’ve really been noticing the side effects of this, as my thoughts have become more scattered, my emotions more volatile, and my energy levels decreased.

This often happens when we go through big changes in life, like moving or starting a new job etc… It’s important to get back on track as soon as possible.

If you don’t already have a self-care routine, consider starting one; it’s a wonderful way to begin and end every day, and can involve any activities you feel help you to relax and relieve stress. Taking time out of every day to take care of yourself promotes a feeling of self-worth that is not reliant on anyone or anything else. It sends the message “I am important and being kind and loving to myself is important to me”.

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For a start, you can try this heart opening meditation I started this morning. It’s a variation on a meditation I used to do every morning, that I called “being a cup”. I was inspired to refine the visualization this morning and felt compelled to share it. It’s very simple, and I found myself feeling incredibly light and open afterwards.

First get into a comfortable seated position, preferably upright since you don’t want to fall asleep. Close your eyes and begin focusing on your breathing. Breathe in and out in long deep breaths through your nose, completely filling and emptying your lungs.

I’d love to be able to sit with each of you and teach you proper deep breathing, but unfortunately that’s not possible. The best way I can describe it is you feel like you are pulling air in through the back of your throat, instead of sniffing air in through your nostrils, even though you are still breathing through your nose. If you are doing this correctly, you should feel your air passages opening, and deep breaths of 8 counts in and 8 counts out should seem easy. When I am breathing deeply, pausing between breaths can be the most relaxing part of the meditation, because it’s the closest the body ever comes to stillness (while living of course!).

This isn’t the most important part though, so don’t worry if you haven’t got the knack of it yet. Just breathe deeply in a rhythm that seems easy to you.

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Once you have a good rhythm going with your breath, and you’re starting to feel relaxed, then you can begin the visualization, if you’d like. It’s perfectly alright to just continue focusing on your breath, if you want. You may find thoughts popping up and your mind keeps wandering. Do not be deterred; simply bring your attention back to your breath, over and over. This is a practise in focus that will serve you well in future.

While you are breathing deeply in, filling your lungs from the bottom to the top, imagine you are a cup, a crystal clear goblet, and golden bubbly liquid like champagne is being poured in through the top of your head, your crown chakra. Feel your heart center being filled by this golden liquid, or light. Then, as you exhale, expelling all of the air from the bottom of your lungs to the top, imagine that golden light pouring out from your heart center.

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Fill your cup completely, and then empty it completely. 

Breathe in the Unconditional Love from Source, then breathe it all back out into the world, in no particular direction, just become a conduit for Love, indiscriminately pouring forth into the world.

Feel how every time you empty your heart, you are then filled again, how their is no ending to the eternal Love of Source.

Know that you can give all of your Love without fear, without needing to receive anything in return, because you will always be renewed.

Feel how your opening creates a void, and that Source Love rushes in to fill that void every time.

Know that the Love you are now a conduit for, that is now pouring from you, will find other voids to fill; you do not need to direct it.

Feel the surety of knowing that you always have access to that Eternal Unconditional Love.

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I recommend 30 minutes twice a day, but you can start with less and work your way up to , or even exceed 30 minutes. If the Buddhist monks can meditate for 3 hours (YIKES!) every morning and evening, then the rest of us can manage 30 minutes.

Remember that this practise is for self-care and showing Loving kindness to yourself; if you are having to force it, beyond just the initial struggle to begin, then perhaps, for that morning, being kind to yourself is letting yourself off the hook! Perhaps, hitting a punching bag or going for a run, or some other cathartic activity, might be what you are needing. You may even feel like meditating afterwards. Remember also that your own fears and doubts may put up roadblocks to your self-care.

In my opinion, listening to your own inner guidance, and honoring the impulses that you receive from within, is the greatest form of kindness and respect you can show yourself. You will know true guidance because it will feel really good to listen to it; letting fears or doubts get in the way of self expansion will not feel good.

“If you meditate regularly, even when you don’t feel like it, you will make great gains, for it will allow you to see how your thoughts impose limits on you. Your resistances to meditation are your mental prisons in miniature.” – Ram Dass

With Love,

Robin

Give Yourself A Cookie

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It’s funny how the most unlikely, and seemingly meaningless events in life, can teach us the most profound lessons.

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My parent’s recently got a new puppy from the humane society. This puppy had spent the first 11 months of his life locked in a crate 18 hours a day. Needless to say he has some anxiety and aggression.

My parent’s also have a 1 year old german shepherd, Red, who can be a little hyper sometimes and loves to get in barking matches with the neighbour dogs. Needless to say, this gets the new puppy, Benji, a little wound up.

Well Red was outside barking away, and I managed to distract her and get her to stop, but Benji was still wound up and anxious. So I thought, if I get him to lie down, he will relax.

Well the problem with that idea was that, of course, a wound up dog doesn’t want to lie down. So the situation devolved really quickly into me chasing him around the house barking orders at him, and Benji running around and getting more and more anxious and wound up!

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Well finally I realized how ridiculous I was being, and I stopped and thought, “what is the path of least resistance here?”.

I immediately left Benji and went to the kitchen and got out the “cookie” jar. As soon as I got out that jar Benji immediately came over to me. I pulled a cookie out of the jar and said “Benji sit”, and what do you know, Benji sat.

So then I said “Benji lay down”. Well he didn’t lay down right away, so I put the cookie down near the floor, and Benji lay down. Then I gave him the cookie. Then we did it all over again a few times, each time I waited a little bit longer before giving him the cookie, and each time I backed up a little bit farther. Well, by the end of this little exercise, Benji was relaxed and so was I.

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All that was in Benji’s awareness was that cookie, and that if he lay down, he would get the cookie. He no longer cared about the other barking dogs, or people walking outside, all he was thinking about was getting that cookie. After that he was relaxed because we had broken the momentum of anxious thoughts and feelings.

Later that night I laughed at myself for running around after this dog, thinking I was going to boss him into being calm, and I realized something pretty significant. I realized that I sometimes do this very thing with myself when I am stressed out or anxious. I tell myself I HAVE to relax! I may try to force myself to sit still and meditate.

I chase those anxious thoughts around and around my brain trying to pin them down and eradicate them in some way.

“I don’t want to think that thought, I don’t want to think that thought, I don’t want to think that thought, I need to relax, I need to relax, I need to relax…..”

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And all that effort and trying just makes me anxious and stressed over being anxious and stressed!

So, what I really need to do is give myself a cookie.
No seriously.
It could literally be a cookie.
Or it could be a beautiful song. Or a cup of tea. Or going for a walk and hugging some trees. Or petting my dog. Or going to a coffee shop and watching people walk by on the street.

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Just give your mind a cookie. Give it a distraction, something that makes it feel good, something that you can focus all of your awareness on to break the momentum of those anxious thoughts!

Well, you could gain a few pounds with all those cookies, but then you’d be a happier, more relaxed you with a few more pounds. Plus it wouldn’t take you long to start to break the momentum of those anxious, negative thoughts. And I don’t mean sit there emotionally eating, stuffing your face with cookies WHILE you stress out over those thoughts.

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What I mean is, get the cookie, look at the cookie, think about how wonderful that cookie is going to be, take a bite out of the cookie and really savour that bite, chew it slowly and really enjoy every moment. Then take a moment and see how you feel. Then repeat, until all anxiety is gone. Make eating that cookie into an exercise in mindfulness.

Because, when I got that cookie out, Benji had no other thought, nothing else in his awareness but that cookie. He was totally focused on cookie. No he didn’t take his time and savour it, he’s a dog! But he did relax. He did forget all about what he was anxious about.

Of course you probably have a greater attention span than a dog (well you did make it to the end of this post), but you also have an incredible ability to focus your mind. You focused enough to get yourself that wound up in the first place, so you can focus yourself out of that anxious place too, you just need to give your mind something else to focus on, some incentive.

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Love to you all,

Robin

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