Desireless

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“When you arise in the morning, think what a precious privilege it is to be alive – to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love.”
– Marcus Aurelius

 

It is often said, in spiritual circles, the path to enlightenment is to let go of desire – we are to become desireless to find peace.

I say, we are to embrace our desires and our LONGING to find PASSION, JOY, EXCITEMENT, LIFE!!!!

Give voice to, accept, acknowledge, admit, and honor your innermost longing – that thing that seems so unreachable, so huge, so terrifying that you don’t even want to admit to yourself that you want it. Yeah, embrace that MOTHERFUCKER!

Have I completely lost it???

Probably.

But think about it. You know that nagging pain in your ankle, neck, back, head, stomach, HEART, that you can’t explain and seems to come and go??? Or maybe just that growing feeling that your very soul is slowly dieing???

If you have a deep inner longing, a passionate desire, that you are not acknowledging, then you know what I’m talking about because that desire is trying to make itself known through your body and emotions, and it will not stop until you let it out! Even if it’s just a silent scream to the heavens, “I WANT THIS!”

If you are trying to bury your deepest desires, it fucking hurts. So let that shit out. Own it.

You’re only holding it in because you have convinced yourself, and allowed other people to convince you, that you cannot have what you desire.

So you’re afraid of it. You lock it away, and shove it down, and suppress it, but it hurts so much more to deny your desires, and you know it.

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“I beg you to have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves as if they were locked rooms or books written in a very foreign language. Don’t search for the answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps then, someday far in the future, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer.” – Rainer Maria Rilke

 

It feels awful to have a desire when you have convinced yourself you cannot have it; it feels joyous and exciting to have a desire and to KNOW it is already yours, and then to experience and participate in the manifestation of it.

And that is only the difference between saying “I want it BUT I can’t have it for this reason, and this reason…..”, and saying “I want it AND I don’t yet know how I will get it, but I am excited to find out!”

Seriously, we cannot be desireless. It is not human nature, or even the nature of any living being, and it would be so Goddamn boring!

We incarnated into these physical bodies to experience life! This is the adventure package all expenses paid vacation!

 

“What if we tried Owning Surrender by letting go? Not letting go of our dreams, our goals, our hopes, our relationships – but rather, letting go of how we think we can MAKE them happen. Having faith enough in the universe that what is meant for you will occur, and that your only job is to dream up the picture, intend it, bless it, and then to let go and enjoy the ride.”

 

With Love and Joyous Celebration,

Robin

 

Fear and Control

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So I keep screwing up this attraction thing. I keep attracting the things I want, but then, when they’re almost in my grasp, something goes wrong and they slip through my fingers. Or it seems like I’ve got what I want, but then it blows up in my face, and I find out that wasn’t really what I wanted after all.

As I said in my last post on the Law of Attraction, we don’t really know what we want, we just know we want to be happy. The trick is we focus on the things we think will make us happy instead of actual happiness.

So why do things keep going wrong when I try to attract the things I think I want? Because I am still trying to be in CONTROL.

The problem with the over-simplified Law of Attraction is that it’s all about being in CONTROL. I’m going to choose exactly what I want and attract that so I won’t ever have to feel anything bad or ever be uncomfortable. My life will be PERFECT.

But what is control? CHOICE? Would I CHOOSE to be in control of every detail, every aspect of my life so that my entire life experience would be limited by what I can imagine? Would I really choose such a limited existence over the limitless possibilities of an infinite Universe? Do I really want CONTROL?

Trying to be in control is like fighting the tide; there is no controlling fate or the tides of the Universe, there is only the ILLUSION of control and a constant struggle to maintain it. And it is when we struggle that we suffer.

To be truly OPEN, to be truly FREE, is to let go of the illusion of control you are bound in, stop the struggle, and let the abundance of the Universe in, knowing, trusting, that it will provide not necessarily what is wanted, but always what is needed.

Also knowing that the Universe and your own soul will demand that you do, indeed, GROW, and that to grow you will have to leave your comfort zone.

So the equation for today would go something like: NEED for CONTROL = FEAR of GROWTH, FEAR of CHANGE

CHANGE – quite possibly the most terrifying word in existence, and yet it is the path to freedom.

Because it is when we change, when we face our fears, when life throws the hard shit at us and we get UNCOMFORTABLE that we find out who we truly are; we are confronted with the dark sides of ourselves and given an opportunity to transform them; we dig deep and find strength we never knew we had; we see what it is that truly nourishes our souls; we see what’s really important. It is in those moments that we can see clearly just how in control we really are, because ultimately we are in total control of our own happiness, and that is what is truly important.

Life is a series of opportunities and choices. The Universe provides the opportunities but we control the choices we make, and every moment is a new opportunity to choose happiness instead of fear, growth instead of control, freedom instead of illusion.

“How you do anything is how you do everything” – Jack Canfield

Or as I said to a friend the other day “If you can’t be happy grocery shopping, you can’t be happy doing anything.”

With Love,

Robin

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My Thoughts on the Concept of Abundance and the Law of Attraction

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hoar frostAbundance. 

Just what does it mean?

What does it mean to have abundance?

What does it mean to feel the lack of it, or to feel something lacking in your life?

What am I lacking, what is missing in my life?

Is it a lack of material things? Will more THINGS make me abundant?

Of course we can’t speak of abundance without speaking of lack, or of wanting. If you are trying to attract or bring abundance into your life, you must feel something is missing, but what is really meant by abundance? I could have an abundance of manure, and if I were a gardener, that might be a good thing. Really when people talk of feeling abundant, or being abundant, or having abundance, they mean they want for nothing, they have no feeling of lack, or SCARCITY.

This is where the “Law of Attraction” comes in. I will attract the things I want into my life, then I will feel abundant! I will attract the house, the job, the car, the THINGS I want, but then I could just save myself the trouble and attract money, or WEALTH, then I could have anything I wanted. So does WEALTH = Abundance?

Well a lack of money does create a feeling of scarcity which generates FEAR, and stifles happiness, and keeps us from experiencing abundance, drains us of life and a will to go on, discourages us from giving, kills generosity, feeds animosity, and encourages a grasping

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mentality, which leads to distrust, PARANOIA, and more FEAR. So then the equation goes WEALTH = ABUNDANCE = No FEAR= HAPPINESS?

Of course this would mean that we are only happy when we have money, and all wealthy people are walking around perpetually happy, while poor people are perpetually unhappy and afraid. Every commercial ever made asking us to spend our money would have us believe this, but we can all look around us and see that it is not so. I can look back at my own life experiences and recognize that even at my poorest, when I have had barely a dime to my name, I have been happy. In fact, I have felt just as much happiness AND fear, regardless of how much money I’ve had.

So would the equation then be HAPPINESS = ABUNDANCE? Of course happiness being a feeling, this equation is about as clear as ditch water. This in-concrete concept = that in-concrete concept. Thanks Robin. I now hold the key to life. (There really needs to be a sarcasm font for moments like this, but you catch my drift.)

So it comes down to HAPPINESS because really that’s what we all want. All this wanting and desiring of things, money, wealth, it comes down to what we think will make us happy. So what we really want is HAPPINESS, and we’ve already ruled out WEALTH as the source of all happiness, so attracting that into our lives is not going to work. Why not use the “Law of Attraction” to attract happiness instead? Because what we want changes from day to day; we really don’t know what we want because we really don’t know what will make us happy. So attract happiness instead. How does one attract happiness? Well according to the “Law of Attraction” we focus our attention on what we want, and really feel like we already have it. I’ll make this even simpler for you; to attract more happiness BE HAPPY.

Well shit, that just makes me think of a quote (from some saint who’s name I can’t remember now and Google seems unable to magically produce) that always annoys me:  “the reward of patience is patience”.  Of course it annoys me because I’m not generally a patient person, and if I’m not patient, then I will never be patient! But then patience isn’t some character trait we are born with (although some people seem to come by it easier), it is a choice, a choice we all make, to be impatient or patient, each and every moment of our lives. And so HAPPINESS is a choice too, and abundance is a series of choices made day after day to be happy, to be grateful, to be generous.

The question remains, if we want to be happy, and all we need to be happy is to choose to be happy, why would we ever choose otherwise?  Well if what we truly want all comes down to HAPPINESS then I would offer the possibility that what only ever holds us back from making that choice is FEAR, but that’s a thought for another day.

“In the spiritual life we are always at the beginning.”

With Love,

Robin Maggie Echo